Learning from Others...

Average people learn from their own mistakes. Stupid people never learn, and smart people learn from other's mistakes.

I want to be person C (the smart person) in this scenario. Don't you?

Which is why I advised my cousin whose sisters are all getting married thusly: "It is far, far better to not be married at 26 than to be married to the wrong person and absolutely, positively, soul suckingly miserable, because when you hit 28 and are a single divorcee (perhaps with a baby) you will sigh and wish like hell you had stayed single. Seriously. I promise you."

She said it made her feel a whole lot better than all her friends who keep telling her she'll find someone.

It made me think of a comedian whom I saw over the weekend. He did a gag where he said that he got married and he was all concerned with the fact that "This is IT. I'm stuck , I can't leave her." And they went on their miserable way for a year or so and then they had a baby, and he looked down at that baby and realized he really could have left before that. "

I mean, that's it isn't it? We get into these situations with our lives and think we're stuck, because we're down in this hole looking out, and not until something else happens do we realize how easy that very difficult looking extraction really would have been... until this new thing.

So, take a look at your life and be happy where you are because it could really, truly be a lot worse- and if you're sitting there flipping off your screen because you're all, "nuh-unh it cannot get worse! My Life SUCKS!" Then, you know, in your heart of hearts what you could do to make it better and JUST THROW a FUCK-IT at it until it sticks. Dump him. Dump her. Move out. Quit your job. Stop being friends with her. Take your ball and go home. Sucky times when you're doing what you choose are always GREAT in the end because you WILL BE proud of yourself. And nothing helps you sleep well at night more than being honest with yourself and proud of that tough choice.